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In love with Jesus. Wife to my best friend & man I love more than life. Mama to 4 amazing God given blessings. Proud Homemaker & Homeschooler. Living life with it's ups and downs and blogging about it!

Friday, September 14, 2007

We're in this fight together!!!!

Philippians 1: 27-30

" But whatever happens to me, you must live in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ, as citizens of heaven. Then, whether I come and see you again or only hear about you, I will know that you are standing side by side, fighting together for the Good News. Don't be intimidated by your enemies. This will be a sign to them that they are going to be destroyed, but that you are going to be saved, even by God himself. For you have been given not only the privilege of trusting in Christ but also the privilege of suffering for him. We are in this fight together. You have seen me suffer for him in the past, and you know that I am still in the midst of this great struggle."NLT

Cliques make me sick! This post has been calling my name for a while and I just never had the time to get my thoughts together and post it. It's been brewing....

I am SO guilty of trying to make myself look good, of being friends with certain people, of talking about people, of GOSSIPING. I am guilty of trying to dress, look a certain way, have certain clothes, a certain car, a certain type of home to impress people. I have been guilty of ALL of these things. I am guilty of not making the effort to truly get to know someone, of just making snap judgements, of nitpicking them apart to make myself feel better about the wife, mother, christian that I am.

I was not so guilty of this in high school. I was not extremely popular because we were not spoiled. I was not allowed to do a lot of things that other girls were. I realize now that this was for my best interest but then it was the end of the world! I had a few friends, I played basketball, I was in the homecoming court. I was made fun of bad enough in elementary and junior high, though, that I shouldnot have made anyone feel left out for the rest of my life. But I didn't. I try really hard now not to make people feel that way. I try really hard to make people feel included. Sometimes I still fail, I go home thinking, " Why didn't I talk to so-and-so?" And I feel bad and dwell on it all evening because I know what it feels like to be left out, to be the only person in the room that no one is talking to. And why do we purposely have these cliques? What are our motives?

There are a few people that I have to deal with right now, they are in my life at this present moment, who tend to be cliqueish(is that a word?lol). They tend to leave people out, whether on accident or because they are trying to prove a point, I don't know. And it doesn't really matter because God knows and I have to remember that. God knows and God weeps when we do our brothers and sisters this way. Because when we do a brother or sister this way, we are doing it to Christ.

So, these verses always hit me where it hurts. I am not just posting about other people, the main person I have to deal with is of course, SELF. But I am hurting pretty bad over this right now, I fight bitter thoughts about it on a daily basis and I would very much appreciate you holding me up in prayer.

I am not talking about any bloggers, so don't even think that! You have been nothing but a blessing to me and my family and I thank you for that from the bottom of my heart. You have been there for us when we needed friends. Your thoughts and prayers have been so felt and appreciated.

I guess maybe this is a rambling post but it's my journal and these are my thoughts. Thanks for taking the time to read them!




Denise said...

I really hear your heart on this subject, I so agree with you sweet one. Please just be yourself, God loves you the way you are, His beautiful daughter.

crystal said...

Okay,,,I know what you mean on this one...I dont know if I ever leave anybody out, I always tended to drift toward the one that was being left out therefore, I never fit in anywhere...I was lost after you graduated cause you took all my friends with you...I had to make new friends..it wasnt easy and I dont think I ever made really good friends with the girls..lol..course I never had any boyfriends either cause we were all friends....but I mostly hung out with everybody but my true friends were the ones everyone else cast aside...I guess I did that because I knew how they felt...to be cast aside.. anyway, I am glad I dont have to worry about that now...I have a great relationship with my inlaws and they dont cast anybody aside, and I have a great relationship at church...they sure dont....but the other church that i could go to...some of them do. So...I am praying for you and I will quit writing my novel now and go get to work on my house...praying as I go...

Love Ya Sis

tonsofsons said...

Please read my post! http://tonsofsons.wordpress.com/2007/09/15/im-guilty-again/

Tonsofsons said...

I have second Denise's kind but so true words. God made the way you are for His glory.

Misty said...

I see where your coming from. I deal with some of these same things so i know how you feel. I feel left out of a lot of things, and feel like i don't really belong around certain people, but at the same time, i don't always make an effort to fit it, so a lot of that falls on me. I tend to let people come to me instead of me going to them, and that is something i really need to work on. I also struggle with judging people about stuff when i really don't know the situation about why they do what they do. Anyway, i didn't mean for this to be so long. By the way, it was nice to see you yesterday. Your kids are so cute.

phyllis said...

mom, i am so proud of you girls, i do not type very well so i will not put very much on here. keep up the good work! LOVE YOU!

amy said...

Thanks to you (& my friend Jill) for bringing this topic up. We don't really have a problem with cliques, but I've recently met a woman who wants to be my friend & uses up every ounce of my (usually abundant) patience. I really need to work on not making her feel excluded.

Thankfulheart said...

You have shared such thoughtful comments. Thank you.
Don't we serve a wonderful God that examines the motives of our heart!?!
Being involved in women's ministry I have seen first hand how feelings of isolation or being "outside the group"- whether real or imagined- will cause woman to leave a particular church. If it is a family we should all feel welcome.

If we don't find Him in the small things, how will we ever find Him in the big ones? ~Elisabeth Elliot